It might not be everyone’s favorite thing to face, but rejection is inevitable and often waiting right around the corner. While many people will allow rejection to dictate their life and define who they are, it doesn’t have to play such a negative role in your life. Learning how to move past rejection is an important skill.

In fact, rejection can be looked at as a positive part of your life that only makes you stronger. Some people will face a downward spiral, some people will do whatever they can to avoid rejection, but others will find the good in it. 

If you’re someone who faces rejection often — or is finally facing it after avoiding it for so long — learning how to move past it can be difficult. It might take some commitment to yourself and your beliefs, but we can all get there if we try. 

Let’s take a look at some of the major things we can do starting today to help us move past rejection and move towards happiness with our current situation. 

Only Move Forward When You’re Ready

While learning how to move past rejection, we will often put a smile on our face and keep moving forward like nothing happened. If you’re someone who acts like rejection doesn’t exist or just tries to move on before you’ve had a chance to digest what happened, there’s a chance you’ll never truly get over it and it will haunt you for the rest of your life. 

To avoid this, always make sure you give yourself enough time after being rejected to process everything. Take a moment to sit down and truly feel the emotions rejection causes in us. It’s important to know that these are extremely normal feelings that everyone experiences throughout your life. 

If you need someone to talk to, don’t be afraid to reach out. Rejection will likely cause us to stick to ourselves, but that’s usually one of the worst things you can do. 

Don’t Focus On What You Could’ve Had

Whether it was a girl that rejected you, a promotion, a new job, or a college, it’s often easy to get stuck with “what could’ve been” thoughts. This will likely make you even more sad at the situation and what you’re missing out on.

Instead of making yourself feel even more sorry at your situation, give yourself some relief and look at the things you didn’t lose from that rejection. Maybe you didn’t get that promotion, but you still have a job. Maybe she rejected you, but you have tons of other friends. Or maybe you didn’t get into the college you wanted, but there are a few others that would be happy to accept you. 

Whenever there’s a negative, find a positive so you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

Seek Help If You Need It

When we hear the term “seek help,” we immediately assume that the person is completely and utterly damaged to the point of no return. 

The truth is, even the most successful and happy people in this world will need help from time to time. We all need a shoulder to lean on, a pair of ears to listen, and someone to give us advice. Don’t rid yourself of help when you need it. 

And when you think there’s no one in the world that will care, trust me, there always is. If you ever need help learning how to move past rejection or anything else in life, contact me and I’ll share with you what I’ve learned in my own journey.